Sunday, 19 May 2019

Being An Introvert In An Extrovert World


I've been a massive fan of Samantha Maria for years now and one of her most recent YouTube videos - THE POWER OF BEING AN INTROVERT - really resonated with me. It got me thinking about my own experiences growing up as an introvert. I know many bloggers that are introverts so hopefully you might be able to relate to this.

It sometimes feels like you can only succeed in the world if you're an extrovert. Throughout school, my parents would always be told that I was 'too quiet' at parents evening. How is being quiet a bad thing? I always listened in lessons and did my homework - being 'too quiet' didn't affect my school work so why did it cause my teachers concern!? This led me to believe that being quiet had negative connotations. I felt like I needed to be louder to 'fit in' but even if I tried to force myself to be more extroverted (fake it till you make it...), it just didn't come naturally to me. Later in life, I realised that a lot of employers seem to believe that extroverts will be better workers (this may be true for some jobs but I'm just generalising here). Being an introvert shouldn't been seen as a weakness for a job because it doesn't make us any less capable of doing the job well.

Introversion is often confused with being shy. I have definitely become more confident since school, however I'm still quiet. I don't like being the centre of attention and I enjoy my own company. People need to accept different personalities rather than labelling someone as 'shy' just because they aren't as loud. It also takes me longer to feel comfortable around new people. Some people can feel comfortable so quickly around new people and it's as if they've known each other their whole lives. I used to get a bit jealous of people like this and questioned whether there was something wrong with me. But I realised that's just who I am - and once I do feel comfortable around someone I won't stop talking!

It's 100% possible to be an introvert and confident - and it's important that other people understand this. I've gradually come to accept that this is who I am and this is what I like. I don't feel like I need to try to 'fit in' anymore because there's nothing wrong with being an introvert. I feel like blogging is popular with introverts because we have things to say but sometimes we would rather write it down than say it face-to-face (also I can blog from the comfort of my own home... I promise I'm not as anti-social as I probably sound haha). What are your thoughts on the whole introvert/extrovert topic? 
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  1. I'm so with you on this! Honestly I couldn't relate to this post more. Throughout school I used to have the same feedback 'Oh Lauren needs to speak more' or 'Lauren is so quiet' and then they would try to force me to join in more. But just because I didn't want to speak or share doesn't mean that I'm incapable or not smart enough. I'm the exact same as you. Around people I'm comfortable around I won't stop talking and it's hard to get me to shut up haha. I'm so glad you wrote this and highlighted that quiet introverted people deserved to have just as much recorgnition as the more out going ones x

    Lauren | itslaurenvictoria.co.uk

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    1. I'm so happy you can relate to this! I feel like more and more people are starting to understand that there's nothing wrong with being introvert but it's definitely something that schools need to understand because I was always made to feel like there was something wrong with me at school! x

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  2. You literally just described my own school experience and how it made me feel for a long time before I realised there is actually nothing wrong with being an introvert! Schools and teachers definitely need to find another approach. x

    Kate Louise Blogs

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    1. I'm glad you can relate to this! Schools need to realise that calling out someone for being quiet can massively affect them x

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  3. I'm a massive introvert and I'm happy that way, I like keeping in my own lane! xx

    GemmaEtc.com

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    1. I'm the exact same - happy doing my own thing! x

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  4. I'm an introvert also - which surprises people as I seem open, friendly etc. but I definitely need a lot of quiet time to decompress! Maybe it's come with age but I used to feel like introversion was some personal failing (lol) but now I'm totally ok with who I am . :)

    Jasmine xx

    Jasmine Talks Beauty

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    1. I completely understand! I don't care anymore that I'm introverted but when I was younger I always worried about what people thought of me! x

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